There is one simple step that I have found that leads to happiness. Acknowledge that happiness does not rely on a person, place, thing or even a circumstance. It depends on your choice. Yup, its that simple. It all depends on how you look at everything, how you react to situations and people.
It seems more and more the ‘world’ pushes that happiness can only be gained by being tied to things, people, position and money. Prestige and placement in life are preached to our children so heavily at a young age that it’s no wonder we are seeing so much depression and and stress in our youngins. The constant flood of being plugged in is always screaming at us what the world says we have to be, have to do, have to go. It’s time to turn it off. School is important but college is not a necessity. There is nothing wrong with having a career based on skill and talents, working with your hands or with the land. Technology has its uses, but more often than not, it seems to have more misuses.
Here are some basic rules for embracing the now, for finding happiness.
- Live well beneath your means.
- Don’t give away what you can’t give at home.
- Return everything you borrow.
- Serve with your talents and your heart, not out of obligation or guilt.
- Stop blaming other people for your bad choices.
- Pray Daily (sometimes every second if need be).
- Have daily walks and talk with God.
- Admit it when you make a mistake.
- Give unworn clothes to charity.
- Give outsized clothes to charity.
- Do something nice for a total stranger (and don’t post it on social media).
- Listen more; talk less.
- Find a reason to be outside.
- Strive for excellence, but not perfection.
- Be on time.
- Don’t make excuses.
- Organize your day in the morning.
- Don’t argue or insist on being right or having the last word.
- Be kind to unkind people.
- Let someone ahead of you in line.
- Take time to be alone with God.
- Always incorporate good manners.
- Don’t lie.
- Be humble.
- Realize and accept that life is not fair, but it is all in God’s plan.
- Enjoy your time for rest and sleep.
- Know when to keep your mouth shut.
- Practice not criticizing others.
- Turn the TV/Computer/phone off.
- Learn from the past.
- Live every day to its fullest.
- Always give a kind word.
- Make due with what you have.
- Focus on the good, not the bad.
Happiness is how you view your life. I like to tell people that every day is a good day as long as I wake up and my feet hit the floor and my face doesn’t. I figure that leaves the rest of the day wide open for great things to happen.
Until Next Time,
Mrs. Kay L. Rice
Here lately I’ve been doing a lot of thinking. Well, more like remembering, cherishing, embracing. I’m not really sure what you would call it exactly.
Between my Bible Groups and discussions at home and watching the world around me, I find myself thinking about my Grandma Inez & my Momma Kathy more and more every day. I find myself looking backwards with the thoughts about my forwards. I realize how blessed I am for all the skills they both taught me, but none more important that being happy with what I have and making good use of what I have.
As this world spins around us it has taken on such a fake and distant personality. Everything seems to be money driven and causing us to work harder and longer and never finding “happiness”. We leave everything that really matters behind us to only focus on what the world says we need and must have. In reality, we need very little and most of us actually have much more than we need. We tell ourselves that we deserve things, luxuries and all other things to try and justify embracing what the world tells us.
This is what I believe we need. Above all else, we NEED God and have an active relationship with him. We NEED shelter, food and clothing. We NEED to be safe and loved. We NEED our family and true friends. All the rest is just pretty much pretty little lies.
When I was a very young girl I spent as much time as I could with my Grandma and Grandpa on a dairy farm on Route 2 in Monroe County, Ohio. Some of my favorite memories are of helping Grandpa in the garden and in the barns and with my Grandma in the kitchen in the farmhouse. In the hot summer I loved riding on the wagon as my Mom helped with bringing in hay. I even found and helped save a nest of baby bats one hay season in the top of the barn, but that’s another story for another time. I loved baking bread with my grandma, it was because of her and my mom that I won a state blue ribbon on my breads when I was in Junior High for 4-H. I absolutely loved learning to preserve foods and listen to my Grandma sing in the kitchen. My mom taught me how to make pickles and sauerkraut. My mom also made some of the best cookies in town, just ask my husband. Where am I going with all of this? In short, very few people takes the time to enjoy these simple pleasures anymore. Everyone is too busy running around chasing other things. I miss those days. I miss snapping beans with my grandma on the front porch and I miss running barefoot in the grass in the yard catching fireflies and putting them in a mason jar.
More and more every day I find myself wanting to unplug and return to that life. Oh I know I can’t go back. My Grandma and Grandpa have long since left this world and gone home to be in Heaven. So perhaps I should rephrase that; more and more every day I find myself wanting to unplug and GO to that life again. Or at least slow down and enjoy this life on this planet. Perhaps passing down my knowledge to those who want to learn the old fashioned life skills. I want to sit on the front porch and look at the world the way God made it and snap beans and tell stories to those who want to hear them and learn something so they can pass a few things down.
Until next time,
Mrs. Kay L. Rice